It is a truism that things are almost always never as bad as they first seem. But don’t tell that to a worrywart. You know exactly the kind of person I’m talking about. We call them fuss-budgets, buzz kills, spoilers and party poopers.
Worrywarts are all around us. They’re in our homes, schools, offices, and places of worship. But unlike the zoo where dangerous species are safely housed behind cages, worrywart’s roam freely among us without restraint or master. They can strike without warning or pretense at the dinner table, in line at the grocery store, or during a meeting.
Practically everything that comes out of a worrywart’s mouth either is negative, cynical or pessimistic. The worrywart constantly thinks (and dwells) about nothing less than the very worse thing that could possibly happen. Worrying about something or someone excessively and needlessly to the point of ridiculousness, even paralysis, is the worrywart’s calling card.
Worrywart’s carry and spread a contagious disease called worrywartism. The disease is easily identified by an annoying whine or an oozing negative vibe that signals both early and advanced stages. Other symptoms may include making mountains out of molehills, not seeing the forest through the trees, refusing to make lemonade out of lemons, not believing the grass is greener on the other side, and never viewing the glass of water as being half-full.
The worrywart looks for storm clouds amidst blue skies. The worrywart is consumed with the worst instead of hoping for the best. The worrywart expects loss in all its forms. Loss of a loved one, loss of a job, loss of health, loss of beauty, and loss of happiness. In short, the worrywart is consumed by worry as preoccupied with the wart.
Worrywartism is not exclusive to age, gender or even social class. The school of hard knocks and the rodeo called life often provide fertile territory for the worrywart to grow and adapt to the surrounding environment without border or restriction. Generally speaking the older one gets the more susceptibility there is to catching worrywartism, but the disease can spread to anyone at any time.
Like a mutant germ or dangerous strain of virus, worrywartism attacks and infects its host and then seeks to infect everyone it comes in contact with. If not carefully isolated and quarantined, worrywartism will envelop an otherwise optimistic, fun-loving and faithful person with a wet blanket that absorbs positive energy, destroys creativity, mutes peace of mind, and potentially extinguishes the flame of hope.
Do not attempt to cure, change or reason with the worrywart. Most worrywart’s are beyond your ability to help. Their worrywartism has been nurtured and ingrained only after years of internal conditioning of a weak and willing mind. They are both master and servant of their worry, and will take great pleasure from taking your pleasure away. Their misery is in need of your company, and they need other hosts to perpetuate their condition.
The happy, or even just content, person must prevent and protect against worrywartism by erecting a shield of impenetrable positive energy around their person. If by chance a worrywart is attracted to your life force (and like fleas to a flame they likely will be), let them bask in the glow of your positive aurora, but be careful not to let your guard down. The allure of their negativity, which is a much easier path to follow than positivity, will suck you into a world of despair and discontent faster than you realize.
Here are three things you can do to protect yourself against worrywart attack and the adverse effects of worrywartism:
- Develop an early detection warning system. Learn to spot and identify the worrywart at first encounter. Maintain a healthy and safe distance.
- Politefully (and as quickly as possible) excuse yourself from the worrywart’s presence, and avoid or limit all future contact or conversation.
- Check, and recharge if necessary, your positive attitude battery levels on a daily basis to prevent worrywartism from infecting your optimistic vibe.
If ever you begin to show signs of early worrywartism, or experience occasional symptoms brought on by direct contact with a worrywart, utilize the following antidotes through self-correction immediately:
- Infuse your mind with happy thoughts and a generous dose of positive affirmation.
- Seek out and hang out with like-minded optimistic, energetic people.
- Rely on and exercise faith in a higher power, and engage in daily prayer or meditation for strength and hope.
- Remember to smile and laugh a lot more than you currently do. They are contagious, too.
- And just for good measure, why not throw a little caution to wind as a booster shot of energy and adrenaline.
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